"Getting what you've ordered in a mate,"

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Ladies and Gentlemen:

I would like to talk to both sexes today since I generally relate to women a little more since I am a women. Today I would like to talk about getting what you want out of a relationship and not settling.

Far too many of times we complain about being trapped, or not getting what we want in our relationships. Now let's talk! I know that people can put on a front pretending to be something that they are not, but our job (and yes it a job) is to find out a person's TRUE NATURE AND MOTIVES. We can't just go by being attracted to that person or base our likes on one thing that you may like about that person, but it is their overall personality that you are trying to scope out. If they are the essence of what you need or want.

This is a very funny story that happened to me. One day this guy had approached me to see if I was interested in him. I told him like Nehemiah in the bible, "I said that I was too busy doing the work for the Lord and I couldn't come down." lol I knew that if he was from God that he would have come up to meet me and work with me too. Anyway, he persisted to get my attention. So out of kindness, I paid him some attention. He stated, I like everything about you! Everything! Hmmm, okay. So as we continued to be friends. Little by little he told me that he couldn't talk to a women with a short hair cut. He asked me would I ever consider weaving my hair? I told him that I worked out, and that my hair was short because I needed it to be convenient. He was disappointed because he had liked everything about me. Later, he told me that he didn't like a women with natural hair. Would I ever consider relaxing my hair? Again, I explained to him that I had long, relaxed hair prior to meeting him, and that this was a decision to accommodate my lifestyle. I am a hairstylist so he knew that I could have weaved or relaxed it at any time, but I had chosen to wear it short and natural. Needless to say, he was disappointed because he had really liked everything about me. Later, he told me, " I don't see why you work out anyway, women don't need muscles. I don't like women with muscles. Women is supposed to be soft and dainty," he said. " If we got together would you ever stop working out?" he asked. I explained to him that working out was for the elite, but that I was one and I enjoyed it. I explained that for me it was a way of life and that I was doing it for my heart. Again, he was disappointed because he had really liked everything about me. Finally, he told me that he had seen me without any makeup on and that he really love me naturally. He expressed to me how he would love a women who just didn't wear makeup. At that point I began to think that this man was not at all interested in me for me. He was looking at everything about me that he could have change, and then I would be perfect for him. This is so funny to me. Why? Well, because far too many of times we do the very same thing. We Juuuuust don't say it. Later, I found out what he really loved overall about me was the one fact that I was a devout christian.

You see he weighed everything on that one thing. The fact that I was a christian was like the only percentage in what he was looking for. The other 99 percentage wasn't there for him. Now listen! Sometimes we get so caught up on this. What you may not want in a person may be just what someone else wants or needs. I to him was not it. That doesn't hurt me to say that because unless he had something great in his personality he wasn't it for me either. lol

As men and women far too many of times we say we know what we want, but yet we do what this gentleman did to me. If I didn't know who I was; I would have fallen prey to this controlling spirit. I would have tried to conform to everything that he wanted. Which initially was me, but later became the me he wanted to perfect! It's okay to help better you future mate, but if you have to change them as much as my friend wanted to change me then you have to ask yourself shouldn't you just change your order, and order something that you really want instead of trying to recreate that person.

This is a good example for you to see this a little more clearer. If you placed your order for something to eat, and all of your associates have received what they actually ordered, but due to the fact your wasn't clear on what you wanted your waiter mixed your order up. Once you looked at it you knew it wasn't what you ordered, but instead of sending the whole order back; you kept calling the waiter back. Take back the fries I ordered potatoes. Then she brings you potatoes. Take back the fish I ordered a steak. She brings you a steak. Take back these mixed-vegetables I ordered asparagus. Finally, the waiter says to you I could have just brought you out this dinner we had it on the menu already, and it was tonight's special too. You see you wasted your time and even the other person's time by not being clear at first on what you want. That isn't fair to you or to them.

So my point is this: God is ready to take your order. So try to be clear on what you want in a mate so that you can at least get what you've ordered, and began to enjoy your long awaited meal/mate : ) ~GBU~

PLEASE ENJOY YOU MEAL (Part 1)

HEAVEN IS THE FINISH LINE! DON'T GIVE UP UNTIL YOU FINISH THE RACE. LET NOTHING STOP YOU. EVEN IF YOU GET TIRED, REST BUT DON'T QUIT! KEEP PRESSING ON!!!